It’s hard to put into words how special my connection with Lair is. I often think that we were like two freight trains destined to collide, meaning that nothing could have stopped us from meeting and falling in love in this life.

As often as we talk, which is a lot, I never get tired of our connection or how hard he makes me laugh. I feel like monogamy, marriage, and long-term relationships get a bad rap, and often rightfully so. Most of us, Lair and I included, have not had models of healthy love. As a result, Lair and I decided to create our own version of relationship and love despite how cynical the world has become. Our intention in sharing our conversations is to remind others that this kind of love and friendship is possible. Of course, it isn’t always easy; we have ups and downs like everyone, but the most important part is we keep talking and make our relationship a daily priority and practice.

Lair Torrent, psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love, and Ashley Torrent, psychospiritual therapist and intuitive medium discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective. To learn more about Lair, visit his website at lairtorrent.com or on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist.